The Dating Dance: A Sensual Tango of Energy and Connection
Dating is a dance, a mesmerizing exchange of energy that unfolds between two people. Whether you’re tangoing with a man, a woman, or someone in between, the rhythm is all the same—it’s about polarity, attraction, and the push-pull of energies. And, oh honey, the dance is as sexy as you want it to be!
I once had a client say, “You probably can’t help me because I’m queer.” I laughed and said, “Oh no, darling, it’s all energy. I work with men, women, gay, straight, and everyone in between. Dating is all about energy, and I throw in some sexy mental martial arts for good measure!”
The Tango of Dating: Why It’s All Energy
Think of dating like a tango. A close embrace, a low center of gravity, and an emphasis on contra body movement—a sultry, seductive dance where two people move as one. Every step, every glance, every breath you take together creates an electric connection. There’s a staccato feel, a dramatic flair that gives it life. It’s stealthy, almost cat-like. Mmmm… I’ll write an entire blog on that later because the essence of tango is everything when it comes to dating.
So what makes the tango special, you ask? It’s the perfect metaphor for relationships. The leader’s arm is low and firm around the follower’s back, guiding their every step. But here’s the twist: whether you lead or follow isn’t determined by gender or sexual orientation. It’s all about energy, baby.
Do You Want to Lead or Follow?
This is one of the first things I ask my clients—gay, straight, or otherwise—because knowing whether you want to lead or follow is the key to everything. Forget the charged terms like masculine and feminine; they’re often misunderstood anyway. Let’s reframe them: are you the one who takes charge and leads the dance, or are you the one who surrenders and follows? Either role is powerful when done with grace and intention.
Once we figure this out, we dive into communication tools, sexy dance moves, and strategies to either spice things up with your current partner or manifest a hot, new love. It’s all about playing with polarity.
I mean, let’s be real: Would you rather be in a steamy, soul-melting tango or in the most awkward dance of all time—like Napoleon Dynamite, just flailing around hoping for the best? No thanks! Let’s give your dating game the sophistication, flair, and energy it deserves.
Building Sexual Energy: The Magic of Communication
One of my clients once called me a magician with words—and let me tell you, words have so much power. You’d be amazed at how language can create sexual tension, ignite desire, and open up a world of possibilities. It’s all about mastering the art of communication.
I teach my clients to speak with their bodies, their words, their energy. Dating isn’t just about finding someone to Netflix and chill with (unless that’s your vibe, then go ahead!). It’s about creating a flow of sexual energy that builds naturally, like a dance. When you learn to lead or follow with confidence, you become irresistible. You don’t just step onto the dance floor; you own it.
Master Your Role in the Dance of Love
Whether you’re the leader or the follower, there’s power in mastering your role. And when I say “role,” I don’t mean some outdated notion of gender roles. I’m talking about energetic roles. Do you lead with your heart, your body, your desire? Or do you follow, letting your partner take you on a journey, trusting that they’ll guide you where you both want to go? Either way, honey, you’ve got to bring your A-game.
It’s all about balance, chemistry, and trust. You can’t be in control if you don’t know how to let go, and you can’t surrender if you’ve never learned how to hold your ground.
Your Next Move: Join the Dance
So, are you ready to transform your dating life from awkward Napoleon Dynamite dancing to a sexy, soulful tango? Whether you’re leading or following, it’s time to master your moves, connect with your partner, and build that irresistible energy.
Dating is more than just swiping right or sliding into someone’s DMs. It’s a dance—a sensual, sexy exchange of energy where both partners are equally important. So put on your dancing shoes, darling, and let’s tango. 💃🏽